Wednesday, June 30, 2010

Random Musings: When to let go?

Happy Wednesday ghetto gurls! :)

Today I'm gonna share again another random musing of mine. I have this since 2004 and I kept it because I know it's definitely worth sharing because it's really really true! Also, I thought before that maybe one day, I have to re-read it to refresh my memory of the lesson it imparts (SO TRUE!) Well, I'm pretty sure everyone can relate to this in one way or another. This one doesn't need any intro or explanation because as it is, it already pierces straight to your heart.

Ghetto B


Don't we all wish something "so good" could be forever? Don't we all hope that happiness is there to stay?

There comes a time in our lives when we chance upon someone "so nice" and "almost perfect" and we just find ourselves getting so intensely attracted to that person (sometimes without even realizing it). This feeling soon become a part of our everyday lives and eventually guzzles our thoughts and actions to the extent that we tagged it as one of those "too good to be true" thing.

The sad part there is when we begin to realize that, this particular person feels totally nothing but friendship. A "thing" that would be forever a "thing" nothing more, nothing less... just a thing! You're just a friend, and that's the fact! Then in our desperate attempt to get closer (or at least be noticed), our efforts are still futile and we end up sorry for ourselves.

One person said, never ever let your heart run your life, as much as you can, always be sensible and let your mind speak for itself. Try to listen not merely on what your feelings is invoking on you as a person but more importantly listen to reason as well. Letting go of someone doesn't necessarily mean you have to stop loving, it only means that you allow that person to find his own happiness without expecting him to come back.

Letting go is not just setting the other person free (in the real sense of it), but it is also setting yourself free from all animosity, revulsion, and resentment that was long kept in your heart. You have to let go because the bitterness often puts away the strengths and weakens the littlest hope, making our lives more miserable than ever. Worst, presenting yourself as the "most affected one" sets the nastiest impression of all time--whatta a loser!

The trick there is...always remember that if you lose someone today, it means that someone better is coming tomorrow.

If you lose love that doesn't mean that you failed in love...right? Just regard it as another mismatch of heaven! Well, you can cry of course, or whine or shout (growl even) if you have to, but make sure that after those outbursts you have washed away the hurt and the bitterness that the past has left with you (easy said than done I know!).

We can all survive with just beautiful memories of the past but real peace and happiness come only with open acceptance of what reality is today. You really don't have to forget someone you love ('cause it's hard). What we need to learn is how to accept the verdict of reality without being bitter or sorry for what we have become. I think it's better that we give off that dedication and love to someone more deserving. Hmmm..."Who could it be" is the next interesting question to ponder.

Let go of yesterday and love will find its way back to you. And when it does, pray hard that it may be the love that will stay and last a lifetime.


  1. totally Agree Ghetto B, I hope this lesson remains in your heart and mind! Goodluck, kaya yan!

  2. Hi Bea! Loving is not easy but it would always be worth it=)

  3. Oh my gosh. This is perfect for what I'm going through right now. Thanks for posting!

  4. Hi tara! more than happy to share and to help ;-)hope all's well with what you are going through.*one.big.hug* :)

  5. Shanna and Nikki, super duper thanks :) thanks for the push i can do it and cheering me up! :) you so know and sniff me hehehe! :)


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